Kids are back

So I've had some interesting conversations lately with Tina and Brett. I never thought Tina would be calling me, but three weeks ago she called up and asked if we could talk. She proceeded to tell me the kids were basically being verbally abused by Brett.

She said he would yell at them at the drop of a hat with no real reason for it, just that his temper would blow whenever they were around. This was obviously upsetting to me so I asked questions. I asked if he would call them names or anything demeaning like that, but she said he just yelled. I then asked her if he hit her. She said she wasn't ready to talk about that and told me she was trying to work on her marriage. She said she was talking with her bishop and trying to work on herself.

I then asked her if she had tried to talk to Brett about his anger issues. She said he wouldn't talk about it. I asked her why she pushed so hard for Brett to baptize Carrson, and she just said, "I think some things happen for a reason."

I'm the reason Brett didn't baptize my son. I didn't feel comfortable with him. I didn't feel he was any more worthy than me, so I made sure the bishop did the job. There just wasn't something right about Brett, or Tina for that matter.

So Tina called me everyday for the next week to let me know the kids were doing ok. With each call she would ask me to keep it confidential. Before she talked to me the first time, she sent me a text asking if I had talked to Brett. She asked me not to talk to him at all, or contact him. I said I wouldn't contact him. So she continued asking me to keep it confidential through text. I told her if anything did happen with our kids, she would have to take immediate action and made sure she understood what I meant. If Brett ever did hit my kids, she would have to leave him.

On May 31, 2010, Tina called me to tell me she and the kids were back in Utah at her mom's house permanently. She didn't say anything happened, but they were back for good. I felt bad for her, but I was so glad to hear my kids were going to be closer from now on. She made it almost nine months with Brett.

Katy and I got to talking, and Katy wondered if she was telling the whole truth about Brett since Tina made up so many horrific stories about me. I didn't really think about it. I was just glad the kids were back.

Then Brett contacted me on June 6, 2010. He asked if we could talk because, "I have a lot of information for you.", is what he told me. He proceeded to tell me about his and Tina's relationship. It was rocky from day one of their honeymoon. Their honeymoon night "she accused him of being dishonest about everything" among other things.

Brett proceeded to tell me Tina would get his cell phone every night to check it. She would check his emails. She accused him of being unfaithful time and time again. Just a few weeks before they separated, she woke him up at about 3am and "asked how many plastic surgeries he has had while they've been married."

He then told me he was going to file a protective order against Tina's parents. He told me he'd been shooting with Rex, and Rex knew how to use a gun. Rex is loaded from his truck, to his house to his work, plus a concealed weapons permit. Brett proceeded to tell me Rex and Wendy Feller discussed plans to kill me over and over again. Brett said it sounded somewhat jokingly at first, "but when you hear it 30, 40 times it starts to sound pretty real." Brett told me I was in their, Rex and Wendy's, "crosshairs."

Brett told me their plans were "for Wendy to kill me because Rex needed to continue making the money and taking care of the family."

So Brett is now "fearful of his own life." He said he was going to contact the police and they would be contacting me shortly about Rex and Wendy.

He also told me about an incident over the last conference weekend when he had the kids and they were at a hotel in Utah. He said Tina told her parents where Brett was, and then Rex and Wendy went to the hotel at about midnight, "got them up, Rex took the kids out to the lobby, and Wendy proceeded to bitch slap Brett."

Brett served Tina divorce papers. She said she left him.

So they had problems from the get go. Brett basically summed up my entire marriage with Tina in about 8 months. He saw how her family, especially Wendy Feller, intrudes on the relationship and how Tina's parents will always be more important than anybody in her life.

Katy was right. I didn't have both sides of the story, and when a story resembles my own experience so closely, I tend to believe it a little more. I know both sides probably exaggerated on what the other person did, but I know better than to trust Tina.

So I haven't told Tina Brett called me, and I won't. Brett told me Tina said "if anything were to happen to her, she wanted Brett to have custody of Carrson, Addi and Sadee." i believe she said that, because she had them calling Brett "Dad" from day one.

Brett also told me he asked Tina what ever happened with the letters her attorney sent me about the insurance money I "owed" her. She claimed I owed her over $2000 for COBRA insurance premiums from Jan 2007-Jan 2008. I had the kids covered from 2006, so my attorney told me not even to respond. Brett told me Tina said, "Oh we'll never get any money out of it. We just sent it to intimidate and scare him."

So I have my kids. I've had them since June 2 and will have them til July 4th, 2010. I'm loving having all of my family together. We've been spending a lot of time with my family and Katy's family. We blessed Boston on June 6th, 2010. It was a great day. I was able to use the Priesthood again and share my testimony. We had a family party after at the park and had a great time. All my brothers were here, along with mom.

Katy was especially pretty that day. I'm excited for us. I look forward to being able to go to the temple with her. We've been reading the scriptures together regularly for a while now and it feels nice to be able to share my spirituality with her. I love her so much. She has a lot of insight for me when I can't see the whole picture on some things, and a lot of the time her insights prove to be right.

Boston has started crawling. He's getting so big. He is seriously the happiest kid I know. I love my kids.

Excited little Boston

I've been in clinicals this week. It's been a great experience and I have loved the facility, Utah Valley Specialty hospital in Provo. Today when I got home, Katy was in the living room with Boston, looked like they had just gotten back from a walk because he was still in the bjorn, and Boston got so excited to see me and have me pick him up he started shaking! It was so cute. I'm exhausted, so I'm going to bed, but I just had to write this down.

Don't want to forget this

This last weekend started out so great. I had my mid-term and blew it out of the water with a 106. Yeah BABY!!

Right after the test I ran home to get the kids' stuff so I could go to Idaho and pick them up and meet Kate and Boston in Logan. I made the drive out to Rexburg, like I did last month, and it turned out to be a beautiful drive. Nothing was going to bring me down Friday.

I got the kids and we made our way to Logan to Kate's mom's house and spent the weekend there. Addie wasn't feeling well, but she didn't complain. We had a few gifts for Carrson and Addie for their birthdays and Carrson loved his Boston Redsox had. He also had a blast with Caleb. The girls were just sweet.

I tried to talk to Carrson again about his baptism, and he got upset when I told him I was going to baptize him. He said he wanted Brett to do it because "your dad doesn't have to do it." Last time we talked about it he told me, "I think it would be a good way for Brett and I to get to know each other."

That isn't a normal comment to come out of a seven year old boy. I know Tina is manipulating my kids and that suspicion was confirmed once again right before we left.

I guess Amanda told Katy before she told me because Kate looked up at me and told me to talk to Amanda. So Amanda came to me and told me she was playing with Addie when Addie said, "My mom Tina said that I only belong to her and Brett. She said I don't belong to my daddy."

I'm more than upset by that, but I know Tina is saying things like that all the time. She needs to grow up. I just sent her an e-mail about it so we'll see what she says.

Katy was more than pissed off. Even so, she's still the better person. She doesn't want to lower herself either and I couldn't love her more. She's the best. I'm so glad I have her in my life, because life has never been this good.

We love Boston so much, and Kate is so great with him. I love seeing her smile with him. She's the best.

Shouldn't do that

Boston is doing great. He got his shots yesterday, and had a rough one. He growls for part of his laughs. It's hilarious. He's changing so much.

I started nursing school as well. I got accepted to the University of Southern Nevada, and they have a new campus in South Jordan. I'm excited about it, and liking the class so far. When we told my dad, we put the acceptance letter in his Christmas card envelope and when he opened it he got pretty emotional. He's just as excited about it as I am. He's the best dad. Katy is going to be great for school. I know she'll need help sometimes, but she'll be so much help with her experience. I love her so much.

We had the kids for the second half of the christmas break and had them until last Sunday. We had crazy week. We spent the first two days up at Grandma Buhr's and then when we came back home, Addi got sick. She was throwing up for about a day, and she was miserable. Then Katy got sick on Wednesday and was sick for a couple of days. Then Sadee got sick the day after Katy felt better, but it was short lived for Sadee. I was a single dad with 4 kids for a couple of days while Katy was down. She felt horrible.

We had a good Christmas, though. The kids enjoyed their presents and I enjoyed all of them together. Addalyn has made a special bond with Boston. She could get him to laugh so easily. She was protective of him with everyone washing their hands, too. It was so cute. When it was time to go, their grandparents Feller came to pick them up and Addi said, "Can we show Boston to grandma? Is that okay?"

It was cute. Addi has been taking her medication for a few weeks now. We gave her half a pill everyday, and when the kids went home Tina asked me how many days I missed giving her a pill. I told her we didn't miss. She asked how much we gave her and I told her half a pill, just like the prescription says. There were a few halves in the bottle, too.

I didn't hear back after that. The next day I called Addi's doctor, Dr. C. Denny, up in ID. The receptionist, or the person I talked to said she couldn't give me any information about Addi because I wasn't allowed access. I needed to prove I was divorced to Tina.

Our divorce decree states that I am to be kept informed at all times of my kids' medical information, and have access to it. Tina kept me out. Once again, she violated our decree. Along with not informing me of their new address until about a month after they moved, and I had to ask several times for it. She planned Carrson's school around her wedding to Brett. Carrson didn't go to school for almost a month. I'm done accommodating her.

On Demand

Haven't posted anything for a while, so I better catch up a little. Things are going well. I finished up the Drug Doses and Calculations class for Bridgerland and ended up with an A. I went in to take one test for a grade on the entire class, and did great. Two days later I had my application in for nursing school, so we're hoping all goes well. 

We had all the kids the weekend before Halloween and it was busy. My mom was in town, so it was nice. Meagan and Ashley had had their babies, so family was buzzing. Leading up to getting the kids I had been trying to communicate with Tina, but could only really talk with Brett. I asked Tina to have my missionary album ready for me when I came to pick them up and she emailed me saying she would have it ready. Later Brett and I talked about the schedule and worked out a pretty good compromise as far as traveling and meeting in the middle. He and I are able to see eye to eye because he has the same situation. His kids live in Ogden. 

When we were done talking he said he would have to run it by Tina and unfortunately she would have the final say, so he would have to go with whatever she said. He called me that Friday morning and said Tina wouldn't agree to it. He told me she got pretty mad that he and I talked about working things out. She then told him to tell me she didn't have my missionary album, to which I replied she emailed me the contrary. He was curious as to why she said it then. Finally, he told me she said he was never to talk to me again. SERIOUSLY!!!!!

Just a few weeks before when I was trying to get the kids so they could see Boston, she picked up the phone and I was talking to her about that weekend, and her response was, "Here's Brett."

She didn't even try to talk to me about it. She just gave it to him as he walked in the door from work. He didn't know what we were talking about and was quite surprised I didn't know about the wedding the girls were going to be flower girls in for Burk Tice's daughter. He and I worked out a compromise for a couple hours after the reception that we could spend with the kids so they could see their baby brother. He and I. Tina would have said no to everything. And then she tells him he is not to talk to me anymore. 

So, back to picking up the kids in Idaho. I drove up to get them and they were excited to go, and then to my surprise she has my missionary album ready to go. With Brett looking on I said, "Thankyou." He had an interesting look on his face. The drive went well.

Alright, done venting. On to the good stuff. Katy is still on the mend, but getting better. She's such a good mom. I think Boston is turning into a momma's boy quite quickly. He knows when she's there. I had him for a couple hours while she went to dinner with her girlfriends just the other day, and he was fine for most of the time, except for when I was making a bottle and he got impatient. 

When she got home I was bouncing him and walking and when she came in, he gave out this little cry-whimper-whine that seemed to say, "Where have you been?" He had just finished about 4 ounces of bottle, and still wanted to nurse from her. All better. 

We just went on a walk to Maverick and took him in stroller. He did pretty well until we were on our way back and he started to get mad. So I took him for the rest of the way. So we get to the house, he and I sit down in the Lay-Z-Boy, and he's chillin'. Then he starts tootin'. Happy and farting we're hanging out. Then Katy came over and I told her what he was doing and she leaned over to kiss him and told him to toot on his daddy. Not a SECOND later, he lifts his legs and rips one!!! Farting on demand! We start laughing and he starts smiling, then he does it again and we can't control ourselves. Too cute, too funny. 

So lets run it down. He's pooped down me in the shower. He's peed in my mouth while I was changing him. While farting really isn't anything out of the ordinary, he did it on demand. Pretty impressive. 

He smiles all the time now too. That open mouthed, gummy grin is the best thing around. Can't get enough of it. 

Little Hoser

A couple days ago I was changing Boston. I had just finished putting on the butt cream and powder and was just turning back around from putting the powder back on the table when I turned my face into a STREAM of PEE! Boston managed hose me down from head to shirt, and got it in my mouth. I let out a "AAAAHHHHH" when Katy turned to see my face dripping in pee. We couldn't stop laughing for a while. I ran to the bathroom to rinse off and douse my mouth in mouthwash. Four weeks old, and already pulling pranks on his old man. I love you, Boston.

I talked to the kids on the phone the other day as well. Carrson sounds so grown up. I can't get over it. He just laughed as he heard Boston in the background chirping. Carrson just copied him and laughed. Addi seems to eat the phone when she talks. It cracks me up, but its hard to hear her. Sadee hasn't wanted to talk on the phone much lately. I miss them.

Katy is getting better little by little. I love her so much. Giving birth takes its toll, but I'm so glad she made it through. She did so well and seeing her smile now is even better than before. She can't get enough of Boston. 

So not the most exciting entry as of late,  but I'm happy none the less.

Lazy Day

I love Katy. For lots of reasons, but last night and this morning were more additions to those reasons. Boston was up every hour during the night, the backwards little stinker, and Kate and I were taking turns getting up with him. Katy eventually took more time with him because she is the best wife... and I'm really not plumbed to feed a baby. You know. We don't want him to get to used to a bottle. So Katy let me sleep longer. What a sweetie.

I went to Priesthood Session tonight, too. It was really good. Hubert and I went together. I think I got the most out of President Monson's talk about anger. I'll probably butcher his words, but he said something like, "Anger promotes nothing, helps nothing, and builds nothing." It's useless in our lives. We've all experienced it, and we have all dealt with it in so many ways. It's important to not let it overcome us. The story about Brother Marsh and the milk between his wife and another sister was a big example. It reminded me of the saying, "It's no use getting upset over spilled milk."

As I'm writing this I just heard Boston rip one in his mom's lap as she commenced with the laughter. I love it when she starts giggling. It's contagious. 

I tried to call the kids tonight, but just got Tina's voicemail. I asked her to have them call me, but still no call back. I'm excited to see them later this month. I miss them.